Alternative Dating
Just how difficult it is to make time for your love life these days?
You smartly put off dating when you were studying. You wanted to stay focused with your coursework. You had a dream and you single-minded worked to pursue that dream. While your buddies spent summers joining the wave of beach-goers hitting on bikini-clad women, you worked as an apprentice clerking at various offices and learning their business. You wanted to be a corporate lawyer. Oh, you’ve loved the girl next door from afar. You’ve chosen not to pursue her and your studies at the same timevsimultaneously. You figured you’d be in a better position to charm her once you’ve gotten the top spot at one of the busiest firms in town.
But alas, you’re too busy now to do anything but work. You can’t even find time to pour a drink; you take a drink off theFlask. You live by the hour. There’s a fancy desk clocks sitting on your office table you keep eyeing throughout the day. In fact, you’re so consumed by time you now own a couple of nautical table clocks– one you keep in your car, the other one sitting by your bedside lamp. You’re at the office before sunrise and stay in well into the night. But you’re feeling the years pile up and you’re feeling lonely. You need someone and you want someone in your life. How do you get into the dating scene after so long?
Truth is, there’s no easy way to. Your options could be limited but one thing you must do is to find creative ways to meet people and make – not find – time to get to know them. Power lunches are not just good for business; it’s an excellent opportunity to screen prospects. Offer to give her a ride home from time to time. The drive is a great time for conversation. Invite her for a cup of coffee instead of going alone for after-office cocktails.
Dates need not be huge productions. There’s nothing wrong about wanting a date to be perfect. But sometimes, too much effort leaves you uptight and too concerned about the details to enjoy the date. Don’t let that happen. It’s a total waste of time. You’ll realize you can build something meaningful from these little mundane encounters. Just remember to be creative and to make time for it.